Return to Radiance with Danielle Venables

089. Grounded Approaches to Empowerment

• Danielle Venables • Episode 89

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After struggling with the demands of modern life, I've come to appreciate the profound transformations that Scorpio season offers us. Reflecting on the dual themes of introspection and empowerment, I unpack how embracing rest and self-compassion can lead to significant personal growth. This season nudges us to reevaluate our relationships and personal dynamics, urging us to find worthiness in our imperfections. I share a pivotal experience and an enlightening book that shifted my perspective, highlighting the importance of internal transformation rather than seeking external validation.

Balancing the roles of parenting and pursuing personal ambitions presents its own unique challenges. In a candid recount of my journey, I describe how a mentor guided me through the turbulent waters of managing a child's behavior alongside a career. This journey revealed the power of staying grounded and accountable, leading to positive changes in both my professional and personal life. I invite you to explore grounding techniques that can transform interactions with loved ones and inspire you to reclaim your joy and power amidst life's chaos. Join me to discover practical insights and share your personal stories as we navigate these transformative experiences together.

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Welcome to Return to Radiance, the podcast with one core purpose to remind you of your innate power and essence. I'm your host, danielle Venables, an Akashic guide and soul coach, here to activate, heal and empower the new wave of soulful CEOs to become radically aligned and unapologetic. In these episodes, we will be diving into all things mystic, soul level transformation, the new paradigm of leadership, business, energetics, awakening, healing and more, as well as holding potent conversations around connecting deeply to your personal power and owning your truth. If you are here for it all, be sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. While I'm confident the discussions in this podcast have the power to change your life, these episodes are for information only and are in no way a substitute for individual medical, legal or mental health advice.

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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Return to Radiance podcast. I am recording video free this time, because I am getting over being sick. As well as just enjoying the early, dark, quiet moments of the morning, I'm not really interested in pulling out the lighting and waking myself up quite that quickly. So we're doing a audio episode, which I haven't done since I started my YouTube channel. I, I think. So, anyway, I wanted to get into a topic today that has been pretty alive for me over the last few years, but then again sort of a nudge and a reminder in this season of life. Everyone I've talked to has had a bit of a challenging Scorpio season. So if you are listening to this as it is first coming out, you may resonate with that. You might be like, oh my gosh, this last month was something else, but with that that, what I find about Scorpio season is it always is a potent reminder. You know, some of these, these challenges, these wounds come up to be looked at as a potent reminder to really look at yourself and look at like your side of the street, whether that is in relationships or family dynamics or even your dynamic with your business. There are always things that we can tighten up for ourselves, and I'm a firm believer that it's important to take time to be with yourself, to be in the human emotions, to just let yourself not always be hard on yourself, to let yourself have some grace and to not always have to like work on yourself or fix a problem or um, anything like that, and I think that there are seasons throughout the year where we might just coast for a while and I think that that's healthy and okay.

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As somebody who used to, you know my self-care, my work in business, my everything used to be um, holding myself to a certain standard of um not perfection, but continuous evolution, not perfection, but continuous evolution, and it was always like a pushing and striving type of energy. And what I've come to realize is that there's like a fatigue, there's a subtle burnout when you're operating that way all the time. That can start to feel exhausting, where now your morning ritual no longer feels fun and it no longer even feels like nourishing, because it just feels like a means to an end or a way that you're trying to become something constantly, and one several years. Is that I am worthy as I am? I am worthy as an imperfect human. I am worthy on the days that I don't feel like trying and striving, and whether it's to call in money or fulfillment or happiness or opportunities, it's okay to take a break. You don't have to be high vibe all the time. You don't have to be working through your shit all the time. It's okay to feel like a victim sometimes Of course don't pack up and live there but it's okay to feel like a victim sometimes. It's okay to be in your emotions. Sometimes it's okay to be in a funk where you don't want to do the things that normally make you feel good, and so all of that to say, I've kind of caught myself in a place where I was there for longer than maybe served me.

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The last few months, I would say, have been very much about me just being present in my life and tethered to the 3D. And again, I'm not somebody who believes anymore that we need to ascend beyond that, as long as we can hold both. But I was. I was staying very sort of stuck in my current reality and I was looking at what wasn't working and I was seeing some of the dysfunction or the disharmony in my life. And it's not that I wasn't working on it, but I was working on it from a very old, outdated approach. And then I was reminded I actually found a book that I started reading and I haven't even read personal development books or anything in probably over a year, but I found a book that was recommended. That kind of came as a reminder of the power that I have to shift my, what I'm not happy with by shifting me.

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So this old paradigm, this old pattern of like this is how you fix your issues, whether it's with your kids or whether it's with your husband, or whether it's work relationships, family relationships. The old paradigm is like you need to talk about it, you need to bring it up, you need to communicate to the other person what's not working and you know then, because they can't change if you don't tell them what's wrong, kind of thing, and that's a very like disempowering state or like belief. But that's that's really what we're taught Like if you go to even therapy and stuff. It's like when you talk about boundaries, it's oh, communicate your boundaries to the other person, um, and things like that, right, like it's all external, it's all relying on another person to be receptive to what you are saying. And don't get me wrong, I am an advocate for communication.

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I've had many conversations with the people around me about where we stand and what's working for me and what's not, and those kinds of things. I have called people that I love forward in a new way and pointed out, maybe, ways that they weren't showing up their best, and also been willing to hear the ways that they don't think I'm showing up my best. Right, it's a two-way street when you open those kinds of conversations, but what this book reminded me of was how much can shift around you when you change yourself, when you take radical responsibility for your side of the street, your mental space, your spiritual space. It's really incredible the way that other people's responses to you, responses to you and even the way that you interact with life, right Um, can change when you are taking care of you. And there's so many sayings about this right, fill your own cup first, and you know all, all of those kinds of things, um, but that was really the reminder that that I needed to come back into my sovereignty, and so I'm speaking about this openly, because being sovereign doesn't mean that you're always sovereign. It doesn't mean that you never fall into codependent patterns with other people or that you never give your power away to another person to influence your mood or the way that you show up or the way that you interact with life. Being sovereign is continuously coming back to the truth of that sovereignty. It's continuously taking radical responsibility of where you have given your sovereignty away and taking ownership of that and saying, yeah, that's on me and I have the power to shift it now as a sovereign being Right. So that was really like the call back to myself that I've received over the last couple of days even, and so maybe somebody needed to hear that and that's why this is coming through in this episode.

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But I will tell you, the first time that I practiced that practice, I was very much struggling with one of my kids. They were just acting out and crying for attention and it felt like this push-pull dynamic between my business. It was like anytime that I would start to gain momentum in my business, my kid would act out and cause me to have to invest all of my resources into them instead of keeping the momentum in my business. So then I would like lose all my momentum, lose all my motivation and just feel really like defeated in business as well as motherhood. Um, because of, because of the dynamic that was playing out and I was working with a mentor at the time who first introduced me to this concept of you know, when you are more rooted, when you are more anchored, when you aren't, so like pulled around by like which direction the wind is going, your kid loses the power to to pull all of your resources that way, to like zap your life force that way.

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And I started to practice that, I started to play with that and it was true, like the more I rooted into the things that I could control, I started to show up differently in my relationship with my kids, and it impacted then the response that I was getting from them too, and so that was the first time that I saw it really work and like they were like big struggles and that was like a big breakthrough. It was kind of slow going. I had to stay the course and trust for for quite a while, but it really did help me and and help my kid start to show up differently and and lead differently in their life as well. Um, so I I've seen it firsthand, I've seen the way that it works and, and somewhere along the way in the last year or two, um, I've kind of disconnected from that. I've kind of like forgotten about that concept.

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Sorry for the background noise, but with that, you know, I'm being called back into a new layer of that right now, and that's where I'm at, and so I'm not sharing this as like, oh, I'm on the other side and I'm sharing my wisdom with you because I'm so ascended as like, oh, I'm on the other side and I'm sharing my wisdom with you because I'm so ascended, blah, blah, blah. I told you on this podcast this is designed to be vulnerable, to be open, to be transparent, so that you can relate to me, so that you can feel me, so that if you're going through the same thing, it's going to land differently because I'm not on the other side. I'm not some magical, evolved human who never has struggles. I'm talking you through my process. I'm talking you through my reminders on a day-to-day, week-by-week basis, so that it doesn't feel unattainable for you to call that power back to, for you to take this reminder and embody it and play with it and experiment with it. And that's the other thing is like I can even feel some of you, as you're listening to this, you're going to be like no, it's not that easy, my life is complicated, or this situation is complicated, or you know, and so I can feel a little bit of resistance, a little bit of the brakes coming on here. But my invitation to you if you're resonating with the things that I've said in this episode so far, said in this episode so far is just to try it on, just to experiment with it, just to play with it just a little bit and see where it gets you.

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Start to notice how you're feeling about yourself and your own self-image. Start to notice how you're maybe responding even if somebody else is behaving the same way. How are you responding differently when you take this and you really just take accountability for your side of the street, and how much can you replenish yourself, how much can you bring yourself joy and fulfillment? How anchored can you be in your essence, in your most natural state, not the doom and gloom state, but the state of your soul, that radiance within, and just play with it? Know.

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So, if this is with a child, like I said, how can you be a firm, constant, safe space for your child without throwing everything away in order to be of service to them, right, you know, if you've got other stuff that's going well and then they have this capacity to, like, throw you off, how can you stay rooted in what you're already doing and the way that you're showing up and the human that you are, um, without letting them, like, pull you around from that? Um, if this is with a spouse, um, you know, how can you respond differently? How can you start to see them differently? Um, can you see, maybe, their intentions coming from a different place. Can you, if you're craving emotional closeness, can you start to create that closeness instead of being closed off and a lot of us have rejection wounds don't, don't get me wrong here um, but you know, can you open the space or voice a desire, or be a little bit vulnerable, and not not vulnerable in the sense of like you're doing this wrong and blaming, but from a place of I desire to feel close to you today. Can we, you know, spend some time together? Can we cuddle up like we used to when we were dating? Um, you know, can we do something fun and flirty and different to interrupt a pattern?

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Um, so anyway, those are like just a couple examples off the top of my head, but I hope that this episode was helpful for you. If you are on this journey, if this is resonating with you, reach out on social media, let me know, share this with a friend if you feel like they need to hear it. I would love to hear from you and interact with you and if you haven't already, if you're a regular listener here, or even if this is your first episode that you're listening to, it would mean the world to me if you would go and give this show. A rating on Apple Podcasts or even on Spotify would be helpful. Just help this. You know, those ratings help me reach more people with these messages and it really starts to build a ripple effect that has the capacity for massive change. So I'm going to leave it at that. Thank you so much for being here Sorry about the baby noises in the background, and I will catch you next week.

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